Now That You Know: What Every Parent Should Know About Homosexuality
Betty Faird and Nancy Hayward. HBJ Publishers 1979
: Written by parents for parents, this book explores most of the major concerns that are raised by parents who discover that their children are gay or lesbian. Though some of the information is dated the core elements of the book are timeless for parents who find themselves dealing with this issue.
The book is broken down into nine different chapters:
1. Now That You Know - What are the reactions and concerns to the first discovery or disclosure from the child to the parent, the initial thoughts that run through a parent's mind.
2. The Children's Story - What could be going on for the gay or lesbian child up until now, the stress related to the process of discovery, the effects of self discovery on the individuals self image and what gays and lesbians face in society, the child's point of view on their status as gay or lesbian individuals whether the parent was told by the child or discovered through other means
3. The Parent's Story - What could be going on for the parent, the effects that having a gay or lesbian child has on a parent and the parent-child relationship, reactions from other family members, and the changes to family dynamics and relationship now that the child's sexual orientation has been shared. The hopes, fears, and emotions that are shared by some parents of gay and lesbian parents.
4. What Is Gay? - Defining gay, lesbian, bisexuality, and gender through examples of different male and female individual's lifestyles. The seven categories of physical sexual arousal are covered.
5. Making Their Way in the World - The discrimination that gays and lesbians face in today's society through given examples from the individual cases that are thoroughly explored. What gay and lesbians have to face on a daily basis in the work place and the differences that people encounter in different professions. Some legal legislation is mentioned.
6. Gay Couples - The experiences of some gay and lesbian couples. Interviews are provided to give the reader a well rounded idea of the relationships that gays and lesbians have and the difficult that they face as couples; this includes 'open relationships'. The role that the partner has for the gay or lesbian child in the relationship and the role of the partner in the family. Gay and lesbian parenting is covered.
7. Gays and Religion - Christianity and Judaism and what they say about homosexuality are listed. Biblical text is broken down into what it means to the argument for and against homosexuality. The experiences of individuals within the content of those two religious beliefs are shared with the reader.
8. Parents and Children Together - The working together that is required by parents and children to have a happy relationships once sexual orientation becomes an issue, the desire of both parents and children to understand more about one another, and the tools available to make communication and better relationships possible.
9. Parents of Gay: A Group That Works
- The experiences of individuals who have attended this group.