Cyndi Darnell

Contact Details

New York, 10007
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Fees & Charges

Fees range between USD $170-$550 whether in-person / online - individuals / couples. Sessions are 90 / 45 minutes. Some sliding scale options available. See FAQs on my website for more specifics of how my services work.


Online/Internet Counselling, Skype Video Counselling.

My clients

Gender & Sexual Minorities Experienced:
Cross Dresser/Transvestite
Kink/BDSM (all gender/sexualities)
Other Gender Variant
Trans F2M
Trans M2F
Age ranges:
Seniors (60+)
Young Adults (16-24)
Relationship Styles:
Friend and Family members

About me

I am clinical sexologist, counsellor & coach working with individuals, couples and multi-partner relationships. Originally from Australia, I am now based in NYC. I offer face-to-face sessions, all day intensives and online sessions to people all over the world. I help partners talk about sex and pleasure in meaningful ways. I help people take the shame and stigma out of deep erotic connection and make talking about sex & eroticism as easy as football and weather. I specialise in helping people work through dilemmas of the body, heart and mind with a specific focus on sex, pleasure, building eroticism, intimacy and relationships.

People enjoy my warm, engaging and no BS style because I believe therapy needn't be an austere experience - especially when it comes to learning pleasure.

My specialty areas are low libido & mismatched desire, increasing pleasure, reintegrating pleasure after sexual abuse, understanding orgasm and arousal, alleiviating painful sex, learning to to touch and be touched, navigating sexual shame and complicated feelings and learning to be more erotically present and embodied. I take a somatic (body centred) approach in working with sex & pleasure. I offer a sliding scale for online sessions plus a suite of online courses on my website for those seeking budget options. I host popular podcast The Erotic Philosopher where we offer free sex advice and answer your ever-present erotic quandaries. I host sexuality workshops annually at The Omega Institute in New York.  You can find me on IG, FB and Twitter. All consulation inquiries through my website only.

Sexual & Gender Identity:
Queer - Female

Experience and approach

Specific experience and training:

My unique skill is in helping people bridge the gaps between relationships, communication, connection and pleasure. I am trained in clinical sexology, relationship counseling and somatic sexology. My approach is holistic and integrative which means we don't just look at what's wrong. We look at what you want, and how to get you there too. All my skills are at your disposal to help you integrate mind, body and heart in your life and your relationships. Together we'll look at what you (& your partner/s) need, where you want to go and how to get you there in the most effective amount of time. We'll make a plan to get you on your way. You'll receive permission to be the totality of who you are. I'll help you understand what you're experiencing, what it means, and give you the tools to change and experience yourself differently. Over time you'll develop the skills to manage problems before they start and feel more joy, peace & connection within yourself and with your partner/s. 

Therapies Practiced:
Breathwork, Counselling, Life coaching , Mindfulness, Psychosexual therapy, Somatic Sex Educator, Somatic Sexology, Supervision/Consultation.
Specialisms and interests:

Originally from Melbourne, Australia, I now proudly call New York City home. I believe that great sex, rich pleasure, and nourishing relationships are central to the quality of our lives. I’m passionate about passion and helping people thrive in life, love, and intimacy. I challenge stigma & sexual discrimination every day. I teach people like you to to live life wholeheartedly. I show people like you how to take meaningful risks in sexuality, relating and life. I guide people just like you, toward the confidence required to make true connection, relationships and pleasure a priority. I know risk. I am a risk-taker by nature, living a bold and passionate life which lead me to follow my heart and gut to NYC - in my 40s! I know what it's like to feel afraid. And I know what it's like when everything feels like it's falling apart. I draw wisdom from many disciplines including Buddhism and social justice theories. 

Theoretical approach:
Body Psychotherapy, Couple Therapy, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy, Existential, Group Therapy, Humanistic, Narrative Therapy, Person-Centred, Somatic Sexology, Systemic, Transpersonal.
Ethical Framework:


Bachelor of Education
La Trobe University (Mar 2000)
Graduate Diploma Counselling
La Trobe University (Mar 2011)
Master Narrative Therapy
University of Melbourne & Dulwich Centre (Mar 2016)
Master Of Health Science (Sexual Health)
University of Sydney (Mar 2011)

Issues and problems I can help with:

Ageing Issues , Bereavement/Grief, Childhood Sexual Abuse (Survivors), Co-Dependency, Coming Out Issues, Compulsive Behaviours (Sex, Gambling, Spending, etc), Cross Dressing/ Transvestism, Dating And Relationship Skills, Depression, Divorce, Erectile Difficulties, Executive Coaching, Gender Identity Concerns, HIV/ AIDS, Homophobic Bullying, Intimacy Issues, Kink/BDSM Identity Concerns, Life Coaching, Menopause, Organisational/Life Management, Pain Management, Phobias, Psychosomatic Illness, Rape/ Sexual Assault/ Sexual Trauma, Relationship Issues, Religious Conflicts, Self Esteem/Confidence, Sexual Arousal/ Desire Difficulties, Sexual Problems/Dysfunction/Desire Discrepancies, Shame/Guilt, Spiritual Counselling, Stress Management, Transgender, Trauma.

Cyndi Darnell. Sex Therapist NYC and Online


Contact us by: Email: | Telephone: 07971 205323 | Post: Pink Therapy, BCM 5159, London WC1N 3XX