Ben Ross

Therapist Directory Listing Category: Psychotherapists and Counsellors

About the Therapist

About the therapist:

I’m someone who notices things: a shift in your breath, a flicker of emotion, the way we’re sitting in the room together. I’ll share what I notice. This doesn’t make me an expert, but rather a fellow human who’s paying close attention, and focusing on your process. I believe counselling should be a space for real contact – sometimes gentle, sometimes surprising, always alive.

I didn’t come to therapy because I had all the answers. People told me I was insightful, that I could see what was going on beneath the surface. But the more I’ve learned – about counselling and about myself – the more I’ve realised how much needs to be set aside. Insight isn’t enough.

What matters is how we meet each other, moment by moment, without knowing in advance what will unfold. Let’s see what happens when we sit together, and explore what is happening for you.

Sexual identity:

Gay
Queer

Gender identity: Male

Gender history: As assigned at birth

Non-monogamy: No

Intersex: No

Neurodivergent: No

Personal pronouns: he/him

Qualifications - Links to websites:

Accredited Registrant National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS)

Qualifications - Additional:

Award	Awarding body	Year of award
MA Gestalt Therapy Theory Studies	Gestalt Centre & London Metropolitan University	2025
Postgraduate Diploma in Gestalt Therapy	Gestalt Centre, London	2024
Postgraduate Certificate in Gestalt Therapy	Gestalt Centre, London	2023

Experience and approach:

Sessions with me begin with what’s here. How you’re sitting, how you’re breathing, what you’re feeling in the moment – all of this is data about how you meet the world, and what your process is, right here and now. You might arrive with anxiety, sadness, or a pattern that feels stuck. I won’t be rushing to fix it. Instead, I’ll stay close to your experience and notice what unfolds between us. I’ve found that this quality of noticing can be extraordinarily powerful.

I work relationally and experientially. Sessions don’t follow a fixed pattern, but work with what you bring each week. Sometimes I’ll name what I see. Sometimes I’ll get it wrong. I don’t aim for perfection, but a willingness to stay with what happens next, and to repair any ruptures that arise. I’m hoping, with time, you will develop trust to be able to do the same.

I don’t envisage counselling as diagnosis or repair. Gestalt counselling is a space for contact, curiosity, and for something new to emerge. When we stay with what’s here, clients begin to get in touch with more choice, more connection, and more clarity. This isn’t because we’ve solved something – I don’t believe there’s anything ‘broken’ in you needing fixing – but because we’ve met it fully.

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