Vivien Burke - Partnership Matters Ltd

I started my coaching journey in 2004.  I have been in the work place for over 40 years.  I bring a wealth of experience across many fields.  Since 2018 I have been taking a deep dive in to relationship, sex and sexuality to better serve and understand my self and my clients.

When people ask me what is at the heart of my practice I read them this: Sadly I am not sure who wrote it.

Quote:

Intimacy - direct, unmediated, heart to heart connection with ourselves and with others - can only occur when the heart is undefended. 

To cut through our personal differences, to reach the unveiled part of our selves that is deep enough to express the most profound and untamed aspects of our being means learning how to love and be loved without defences and with out obstructions.  It means cultivating the capacity to be emotionally present even when we feel exposed or vulnerable; learning to relinquish the many strategies we have employed to feel safe and in control; and finding the courage to love without guarantees or requirements. Through developing the capacity for intimacy in this way, we discover love as an abiding presence and the emotional centre of our being, our heart, and we can never again feel emotionally disconnected, incomplete or unloved. END

I am always working in one of 4 areas. 

Regulate: Our nervous systems need care and attention so we can be present for what can be a tricky journey. I provide strategies to support this.

Resource: I bring a host of tools to create new frameworks in which to communicate needs, wants and desires. If we do what we have always done, we get what we have always got. We make big changes here. I work to discover what resources you too.

Repair: Whether it is an affair, a breach of an agreement or a litany of issues that have created a wall between you and your partner or your relationship to self, I prepare you to address them and create healing.

Reconstruct: I see a lot of, how can I put it? Limiting goals!  So until you are ready to really develop your own I have one always running on your behalf. Live an epic life! This is where we reset and reinvent.

For Couples: It is my mission to prevent the unnecessary misery or end of long term relationships due to the lack of repair, care and attention they deserve. It's a no brainer when it comes to investing in a remodel of the house, maintenance of  the cars and root canals, relationships need maintenance and investment too.  Work with me and  turn your relationship back in to a rich fulfilling, loving exchange worthy of the life time commitment. Allow me to assist you in breaking down the walls that have come between you, however they were built.

For Individuals: Are you struggling with some part of your sexuality?

Would you like to work on finding your voice around sexual needs wants and desires? Would you like help in figuring out how you are wired for pleasure and how to ask for what you want?

Do you just want someone to talk to about your relationship with sex?

Are you or your partner experiencing sexual behaviour that seems out of control?  Did someone mention the word 'addict' around your sexual activity. Don't be alone in this or with friends who do not understand that unwanted sexual behaviour can be deep rooted and is worthy of professional help.