Milton Sattler Therapy

Get in touch with me and book an initial free 30-40-minute session.

Perhaps it is the first time you have ever spoken about your difficulties with someone.

Do you feel that you would like, or need, to change?

Therapy can help you on your journey of change.

My Experience

I am an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist with 10 years of experience working in different sectors such as the NHS, charitable sector and Private Practice in London.  

I take with me my years of experience as a therapist to my work in psychosexual and relationship/Intimate Partner Therapy work.  My work is supervised by a COSRT-accredited supervisor.   I am offering low-cost fees for some specific psychosexual presentations and Intimate Partners Therapy short-term work.   I offer short and long-term Psychosexual and Intimate Partners Therapy in English and Brazilian Portuguese.   I am a BACP Accredited, BPC registered, ACTO Level 2 counsellor and psychotherapist, CORST sexologist and intimate partners relationship Professional Associate therapist.  

Perhaps it is the first time that you have ever spoken about your relationship or sexual difficulties with someone in your life.  

I have been working in Private Practice since 2015 with a variety of psychosexual and relationship issues.  

Psychosexual and Sex Therapy

  Just like with other types of therapy, sex therapy is customized to each client. It can involve both insight-oriented work, such as processing the psychological causes of your concerns around sex and sexuality, as well as hands-on homework in between sessions to develop skills.   Sex therapy often also includes some form of educational component, whether it’s learning about your or your partner’s anatomy or getting information about the science behind satisfaction. Sometimes, the simple sharing of information tailored to your situation can be one of the most helpful aspects of seeing a sex therapist.   As in all talk therapy, the goal of therapy is to explore the reasons why you have been experiencing difficulty, identify your desires in a non-judgmental and compassionate way, and empower you to cope with strength and insight.   Are you having a hard time reconciling your more exotic desires with the messages of disapproval that you may have heard from society?   It is common for people to have a problem with sex at some point in their life. Sexual problems can cause a lot of distress and unhappiness in people. A sex therapist will listen to you describe your problems and assess whether the cause is likely to be psychological, physical or a combination of the two.   Psychosexual and Sex Therapy will support you with your intimate life and relationship challenges, emotional concerns you may be experiencing that are contributing to the sexual problem, and customised interventions and techniques to get you back on the journey of reclaiming or establishing sexual fulfilment.   I aim to support you in gaining a clearer understanding of yourself. I provide a confidential, non-judgmental space to support you with various challenges related to your intimate life and relationships. We'll discuss your desired goals for therapy. I'll support you with any emotional concerns you may be experiencing that are contributing to the sexual problem in your life, and I'll offer customised interventions and techniques to get you back on the journey of reclaiming or establishing a newfound sexual fulfilment in your intimate encounters.   I can help you with various sexual problems and related issues such as:  

• Lack of desire
• Difficulty having an orgasm
• Pain during sex or inability to have penetrative sex
• Difficulty getting or keeping an erection (ED)
• Premature ejaculation or other ejaculation problems
• Relationship issues
• Depression and Anxiety
• Self-confidence and self-esteem
• Shame
• Internalised homophobia
• Having health issues or chronic illnesses
• Coming Out
• Sex Addiction
• ChemSex
• Domestic and/or sexual abuse
• Seek therapeutic guidance to explore your feelings about your awakening interest in BDSM.
• Help in your decision-making process when deciding whom you'd like to disclose about your BDSM.

  I am also a Kink-aware therapist. I recognize BDSM play as a normal part of the sexual spectrum and I can distinguish healthy BDSM play from non-consensual abuse. I am aware of what constitutes safe and unsafe play (acknowledging of course those different folks have different standards for that); the types of roles and role expectations that are commonly encountered in the BDSM scene; I understand the stress that some clients may experience in keeping their BDSM lifestyle secret; and for many kinky clients, BDSM might not have anything to do with the reason that the client is coming in for therapy. Quite often, BDSM is just another facet of the client's life, like their vegetarianism or their hobby of knitting.   People come into therapy for different reasons such as:

• Relationship issues.
• Feeling stuck and wanting to grow.
• Experiencing losses such as bereavement, divorce, redundancy or identity.
• Feeling anxious and depressed.
• Stress.
• Self-confidence and self-esteem.
• Shame and internalised homophobia.
• Having health issues or chronic illnesses.
• Coming Out.
• Trapped in destructive patterns of behaviour.
• Dealing with unresolved issues.
• Recent or past trauma.
• Parent and child issues.
• Domestic and/or sexual abuse.
• Seek therapeutic guidance to explore your feelings about your awakening interest in BDSM
• Are you having a hard time reconciling your more exotic desires with the messages of disapproval that you may have heard from society? Such messages may come in many forms the mainstream may believe that BDSM equates to violence, the queer community might not acknowledge straight BDSM participants who self-identify as queer as such and the lesbian/feminist communities might perceive women who are into BDSM as identifying with the male oppressor or female as victim role. I can help you to address any internalized kink phobia that may arise.
• You might also use therapy to help in your decision process when making choices about the people to whom you'd like to disclose your BDSM interests.
• I can help you to make informed choices about whom to tell and how to bring the topic up and help you to process your feelings about that person’s response afterwards.