Roy Graff - Open Relating Coaching

My name is Roy. I have lived adventurously and curiously and had a varied career in business development and marketing for over 20 years, living on different continents and collecting many life experiences. My first 20 years adulting were unconsciously monogamous by default. A personal and financial crisis in 2010, forced me to completely re-evaluate my life and values, go through therapy and dig deep inside for self–awareness and self-love. I was introduced to non-monogamy a decade ago and have identified as polyamorous ever since, experiencing a wide variety of relationship dynamics in the spectra of multigamy. Assimilating knowledge from diverse sources and making many of my own mistakes, I’ve learnt a great deal over the past 10 years. 

The increasing complexity of human life means that expanding the options for human connection and intimacy can be seen as part of social evolution. In Western culture, at least, people have created a society that values individualism, and pushes us to seek happiness as an ideal. What Multigamy brings is a path to more intimate social connections that combines our individual needs with stronger social ties to community. Having the choice to explore deeper connections with more people can be seen as an evolutionary force. This is not a suggestion that there is anything wrong with choosing monogamy. I support all and any consensual relationship dynamics and structures that bring enrichment and purpose to the individuals involved. The basic toolkit you need for healthy, intimate, autonomous and boundaried relationship is always the same.