Sergio Rebelo

We often learn from a very young age that the price of maintaining a connection with others is pruning parts of ourselves away while strengthening others. We might learn our needs, our desires, pleasures, or our joy must go just to keep those around us close. Unfortunately this can begin so early on that we may even lose track of who we were before we began adapting. While these strategies helped us survive, those hidden parts, and the ways we learned to relate to them, stay with us, eventually resurfacing as restlessness, overwhelm, or a heavy disconnect from our bodies - or as the ‘problems’ that brought you here.  

I work with how these parts reappear in the most private areas of life: sex, intimacy, and relationships. Here, they may take on other forms: mismatched or low desire, performance anxiety, or shame around kink and BDSM. It can also manifest as compulsive patterns involving chems, porn, sex, financial domination, or as depression and questions about identity. 

Learning how and why these parts, behaviours, thoughts, and/or dynamics are showing up now, is a large part of the work I undertake with my clients. My work is grounded in specialist psychosexual training with the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology and from my experience in the NHS at 56 Dean Street. I use principles from Compassion Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems to help you understand your internal world. As a relational therapist, I also pay attention to the dynamics between us to identify patterns that remain present even if they no longer serve you.

I work with a wide range of individuals and, from November, couples/polycules. This includes people who are LGBTQIA+, heterosexual, non-binary, neurodiverse, and those practicing non-monogamy or polyamory.

Therapy with me is not about fixing. It is about understanding your reasons, feelings, and behaviours. Once we understand them, you can decide what serves you best.